What is Your Message? To Spread Joy or to Destroy?

What is Your Message? To Spread Joy or to Destroy?


Have you ever taken a self-assessment of what is the message that you are leaving behind? Perhaps you haven't thought about it. It is so easy to go through our day, deal with our "stuff" and forget to recognize what our message to the world is conveying by our actions, words, or deeds.


Many times you may have someone ask you, "Hey, what's wrong with you today?"  Perhaps you didn't even realize that you were sending out a negative vibe.  Maybe you really did have a rough day,  received some bad news, or just don't feel very well.  We certainly all have those days.


This post is to place the focus on stopping every now and then to assess what is the "message" you are portraying.  It is easy to become complacent and you don't even know that you are leaving a message that destroys rather than spreading joy.  And trust me, your words, actions, and deeds most definitely affect others.


Take a moment today to assess your state of mind.  What words flow out of you easily?  Are they positive or negative?  Are they uplifting or are they destructive?  Are they kind or are they harsh?


I choose to spread joy as often as possible.  I too like being the recipient of joy from others.  What are you choosing today?


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        Granbury, Texas 

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Comment balloon 19 commentsPaula McDonald, Ph.D. • September 18 2017 09:00PM



Whichever side one chooses is a reflection of their core values,  Happy Monday


Posted by Ron and Alexandra Seigel, Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy (Napa Consultants) almost 3 years ago

Always spreading happiness and joy in my world Paula!

Posted by Anna Banana Kruchten Arizona's Top Banana!, 602-380-4886 (HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000) almost 3 years ago

I have to agree with comment #1 left by Ron and Alexandra, "Whichever side one chooses is a reflection of their core values."

Posted by Myrl Jeffcoat, Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent (GreatWest Realty) almost 3 years ago

Hi Paula... a great reminder to all. Even those of us who normally project positiveness have our down days. 

Posted by Nina Hollander, Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor (Coldwell Banker Realty) almost 3 years ago

I try for the joy as much as possible but suspect that's not always the case. Greaat reminder, Paula - thank you!


Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (eXp Realty of California) almost 3 years ago

We recently went through an odd situatipm and discussed - at length - our role as co-creators in the experience. We have to take ownership of our own stuff -  is is about spreading joy, or misery? Sometimes we have to remain neutral and watch things unfold, that's tough to do. Our goal and intention is to always foster joyfulness and positive outcomes. 

Posted by Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD, REALTORS® in Clark County, WA (ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors) almost 3 years ago

Paula- I like your message! I know there are times when I need to take a step back and ask myself what's wrong with me. While I strongly encourage and promote a positive attitude there are just times when I find I may not exactly be spreading that. 

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) almost 3 years ago

                             Paula McDonald   Thank you!!!

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) almost 3 years ago

Good morning Paula. Sometimes you can have the absolute right message and choose an absolutely wrong platform. Enjoy your day!

Posted by Wayne Martin, Real Estate Broker - Retired (Wayne M Martin) almost 3 years ago

Paula - it is good for us to stop and think, What baggage are we taken into our day and how is it affecting us and others?

Posted by Grant Schneider, Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes (Performance Development Strategies) almost 3 years ago

Guilty of the negative!

Sometimes I even enjoy it, if you can believe that. Whining is sometimes a comical relief for me. At times you just have to find the humor in a very bad situation.

Posted by Sharon Tara, New Hampshire Home Stager (Sharon Tara Transformations) almost 3 years ago

I can see why Kathy chose your post today to high light...well written!

Posted by Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®, Giving Back With Each Home Sold! (RE/MAX Realty Center ) almost 3 years ago

Good morning Paula. I like this a lot and find it to be true. I know good people who have problems who are always down. After awile it is tiring to engage those folks.

Posted by Sheila Anderson, The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133 (Referral Group Incorporated) almost 3 years ago

I choose to be positive and spread cheer!

Posted by Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat (406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty) almost 3 years ago

Good thoughts and advice!  I agree completely, we need to be AWARE of ourselves and FOCUS on others.  Not the other way around.  When you do this you will send the right message without having to fake it.  




Posted by Kate McQueen, Tailored service for your real estate needs! (CB&A Realtors) almost 3 years ago

Good morning Paula McDonald,

I'm so glad I read your post Kathy Streib 's "Ah-Ha" moments for the week. Excellent advice and we do need to stop and think about the message we are sending out there in the universe! Focusing on others and offering positive attitudes and vibes.

Posted by Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR, Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate (Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.750.6899) almost 3 years ago

While we should all focus on being, saying and doing positive every day it is a challenge in this social media slanted world!

Posted by Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty, Fifteen Years Experience in Brevard County (Bucci Realty, Inc.) almost 3 years ago

I loved that you posted an amazing butterfly.  I love nature and plants and flowers.  When I have this around me all the time I am cheerful and happy.

Posted by Susan McCall, Helping with smiles and care!, Listing and Buyer's Agent (Compass Realty Solutions) almost 3 years ago

As the good book says "Rejoice always!" Thanks for sharing!

Posted by Corey Martin, Real Estate and Management Solutions (Martin Presence Group) almost 3 years ago

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