My First Real Estate Interaction With a Scary Dude!

My First Real Estate Interaction With a Scary Dude

This is a post for the AR Contest: Your First Time.

Many years ago, I received a call from a man (dude) saying he was interested in one of my listings. He proceeded to constantly tell me how he was a retired NFL player, yada, yada, yada. I am guessing he assumed this would impress me.


His entire braggadocios statements were my first clue that this guy was T-R-0-U-B-L-E! Not knowing him, of course I Googled him and yes he was a former NFL player. Big deal right? I still had my "strange" feeling about this guy so there was no way I was going to meet him anywhere alone.


I had an associate of mine with me upon our first meeting. Of course he had on a shirt that said, "NFL Former Players Association" just in case I forgot this important fact. When he walked in, yes he was a big DUDE! The thing that really got me was his long, dirty fingernails. GROSS out!


He appeared to be very "put off" that I had an associate with me. During the entire meeting, all he could talk about was his past NFL career. I mean come on man - move forward in life! Yes, great accomplishment but we are here today and need to discuss something else.


Things got really strange when he insisted that I represent him as a buyer. My instinct was a big fat NO! Because I was the listing agent, I suggested my associate (a guy) represent him. Not only did this DUDE become extremely loud and belligerent, he began becoming verbally abusive.


Now at this point, we know we are outta there! This DUDE was just downright out of his mind! We exited quickly and hoped we would not hear back from him again.


The next day there was a HUGE gunshot hole (only in Texas right?) in my sign on this property! WOW! Coincidence? No way!


A big lesson learned - ALWAYS listen to your gut! If you don't feel right about something then go with it! I know I avoided a potential crisis with that guy!


Thankfully, nothing else quite that dramatic has happened where I felt unsafe. We all live in a dangerous world and real estate is no exception. Be vigilant, be smart and be safe!


Oh, and a side note; this picture just may or may not be from my own target practice! Just sayin! 

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   Paula L. McDonald ~ REALTOR®, 

        Granbury, Texas 

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Comment balloon 19 commentsPaula McDonald, Ph.D. • October 05 2016 11:40AM



Now THAT is a scary story. You certainly made the right decision, and thankfully there was nothing beyond the gun shots in your sign! That was bad enough!!


Posted by Jeff Dowler, CRS, The Southern California Relocation Dude (eXp Realty of California) almost 4 years ago

I've certainly had guys that creeped my out in my career, but agree 100% that you have to listen to your gut.

Posted by Tammy Lankford,, Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville (Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668) almost 4 years ago

As part of safety, it is always good to trust our gut.  I've had two very memorable situations, where I took an associate along, and was very glad I did.

Posted by Myrl Jeffcoat, Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent (GreatWest Realty) almost 4 years ago

Whoa, that's terrifying. Yes, we have to listen to our guts, glad you did. 

Posted by Karen Fiddler, Broker/Owner, Orange County & Lake Arrowhead, CA (949)510-2395 (Karen Parsons-Fiddler, Broker 949-510-2395) almost 4 years ago

I just had a similar experience.  My guy wasn't a big guy, exactly the opposite, a little pip squeek. A little rich guy with a big attitude.  A bully to say the least.  Glad he went away and his number has been blocked, he is out of the DB and gone. 

Posted by Sandra Paulow, REALTOR, Associate Broker, GRI, SFR (Aspen Properties, Inc. ) almost 4 years ago

I think you're lucky that the sign was the only thing that got shot!!

Posted by Jeanne Gregory, The most important home I sell is YOURS! (RE/MAX Southwest) almost 4 years ago

That's a creepy story.  I also think it's creepy that y'all can go around shooting things and think it's normal. : (

Posted by Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089, Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info (Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers) almost 4 years ago

Dear Paula,

There I thought, I was the only one, whose signs have been shot at (metal signs) or sliced in half by what seemed to have been a machete (coroplast). The spray-painted "f you" seemed tame by comparison. Need to find a way to get that off a reflective sign, so I can continue to use it. Clearly some people have an imbalance of some sort.

Posted by Dörte Engel, ABC - Annapolis, Bowie, Crofton & rest of Maryland (RE/MAX Leading Edge) almost 4 years ago

Very scary - always trust your gut instinct!  Mine has saved me a couple times

Posted by Terry McCarley, REALTOR, SRES, CDPE - Cape Coral, FL (REMAX Trend - Cape Coral FL) almost 4 years ago

It is funny how the hairs stand up on the back of our neck and our intuition kicks in at certain times. Definitely listen to your instincts. Even if they are wrong, you will certainly feel better that you didn't put yourself into a no-no situation.

Posted by Anne Corbin, Serving Lake Anna & Central Virginia (Long and Foster - Lake Anna) almost 4 years ago

Good for you Paula & following your gut.

Posted by Lyn Sims, Schaumburg Real Estate (RE/MAX Suburban) almost 4 years ago

Oh my gosh. That's a scary situation. Good for your gut feelings on the Dude! That could have been a very bad situation.

Posted by Teri Pacitto, Real Estate, Your Style...Your Home...My Specialty (Compass) almost 4 years ago

I always get a kick with people that have to mention their past . . . over and over and over again.  He may have been on steroids, to keep up his appearance, and perhaps his unsocial behavior was due to the aggressive adverse reactions to that.  I'm only guessing.  The guy sounds like a Neanderthal that would use "enhancing" drugs.  Maybe he becone addicted during his NFL tenure . . . oh, they NEVER use performance enchancing drugs in sports, said Lance Armstrong.


Posted by Carla Muss-Jacobs, RETIRED (RETIRED / State License is Inactive) almost 4 years ago

Paula, wow!  This guy sounds profoundly obnoxious!  And not nearly as flirtworthy as he must have thought he was!  Yikes!  

Posted by Patricia Kennedy, Home in the Capital (Redfin) almost 4 years ago

Paula - I am so glad that you listened to your gut.  Otherwise things may not have ended up so well.

Posted by Grant Schneider, Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes (Performance Development Strategies) almost 4 years ago

WOW, Paula. Guns scare me. Sorry. I have had my car shot by a next-door neighbor (in college) who claimed that he was putting his handgun away in the glove compartment of his vehicle parked next to mine and it accidentally went off. He was so very odd. It went through both my windows, driverside, passenger, the bullet split and part of it lodged in my passenger door and the other part ended up about 6 inches away from my boyfriend's gas tank on his truck parked next to me. When we saw this the next morning, we didn't know what had happened and my boyfriend asked me who I pissed off the night before! Geesh. We found out the truth later, but I had other gun-related craziness happen with this neighbor and I never ever trusted him after that.

My dad saw the hole later in my door and I passed it off with some lame excuse that had nothing to do with the real story--he would have totally freaked. 

How early in your career was this?


Posted by Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate, "Your Local Expert!" 503-755-2905 (John L Scott Market Center) almost 4 years ago

Wow! I have had some scary encounters but none that ever resulted on a bullet hole!  The lesson for us all...follow the gut.  The one time I did not I ended up with a complaint to the state filed against me (exonerated, two years later!).

Posted by Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty, Fifteen Years Experience in Brevard County (Bucci Realty, Inc.) over 3 years ago

I always go with my gut. Took the hubby with me one time and the guy was super upset. He even said if my husband was going to be with me "He" couldn't trust me. He made that comment in front of my husband! Never saw him again and I sent a blast out to the board and other agents. Had a photo of him and attached that. As it turned out he had warrants. Oh BTW Texas isn't the only place signs get holes put through them by ammo.

Posted by Theresa Akin (CORPUS CHRISTI REALTY GROUP) over 3 years ago

Great insight on gut feelings

Posted by Daniel Dominguez, I'm an RE agent serving Nassau & Suffolk County (Realty Connect USA) about 2 years ago

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